Have you ever spoken to someone and after a lengthy conversation felt that what you had heard…did not really represent the person that you were communicating with?
Often, it seems, we are attempting to present a facsimile of ourself to those that we meet. This could be for a variety of reasons, including;
- We want to fit in with or be a part of a group.
- We want to comport with the norms of a professional position.
- We are trying to mimic, or ape, a person that we wish that we were.
- We do not want to express an opinion that varies from our employer or church leader.
- We are insecure in our own skin.
I have said, many times, that I enjoy talking with an authentic person.
Authenticity, brings surprise and questions and, sometimes, shock.
Sadly, often, people commit suicide…and the most common remark made about them is…they seemed so happy.
There can be few things worse…than trying to portray yourself as someone that you are not.
Candid views and emotions and beliefs…are refreshing and they are original…because they are yours.
We all want to be liked and accepted and a member of the larger group…but these feelings should not be at the expense of our true identity.
The key to racial understanding is for white Americans and African Americans to get to know each other.
A true and meaningful dialogue will have to include the candid airing of prejudices and bias…and the re-building of our opinions and understanding that is based on real and heartfelt conversation and fellowship with each other.
It is easy to disparage and criticize those who you do not know…it is not so easy to do so…when you have broken bread with them and understood their shared journey with you…on the road of life.
Candid conversation…can hurt.
Honest feelings…are often…raw.
At times our best efforts at reaching out to another that seems a loner or marginalized or sad or homeless…can be rebuffed and misunderstood.
We must continue to try.
There is no other solution for our sad, divided, and lonely…human family.
Be who you are…if no one agrees with you…wave your flag proudly!
If you see a wrong committed…do not be afraid to speak out…if no one stands beside you.