‘You may be an ambassador to England or France
You may like to gamble, you might like to dance
You may be the heavyweight champion of the world
You may be a socialite with a long string of pearls.’
‘But you’re gonna have to serve somebody, yes indeed
You’re gonna have to serve somebody, yes indeed
It may be the devil or it may be the Lord
But you’re gonna have to serve somebody’ Bob Dylan
Have you ever noticed the people in your life that want to have either some or total control of your actions?
The workplace has inherent in its structure…the control of the employees that are being paid by the organization. This control, may include, institution and departmental rules and even a dress code. Often your employer may also be governed by state and federal laws that apply to your work product.
The above paragraph sounds a bit like a 1950’s Industrial Manual.
However, the rules and regulations of the shop do not extend to freedom of speech and thought. These are Constitutionally protected rights.
I have observed supervisors and managers and administrators who regarded their employees similarly to chess pieces on a chessboard. They moved them, at will, to facilitate their own personal gain…with little regard for the employee’s welfare and the good of the organization.
There is another type of control of another that is more insidious and difficult, at first, to detect.
Often, passive/aggressive persons will seek to control another through carefully worded questions and suggestions and statements that are designed with a hidden agenda in mind.
Many religious people are adept at endeavoring to control their friends and family and fellow congregants through reminding them what the Bible says…according to their private interpretation.
It is a healthy and productive exercise to examine, periodically, why you are doing the things that you do and saying the things that you say and, subsequently, feeling miserable in many of these human actions.
Many successful salesmen and women understand how to frame a paradigm to fit the item that they are selling.
Media and marketing are experts in causing us to want what they are selling. Often after you purchase the, cleverly packaged item, you wonder what you were thinking when you made the purchase.
The term, fake news, is now an ensconced member of our lexicon.
I have observed many relationships where one of the partners was searching for a clone of themselves and thus immediately set out to transform their partner into their image.
A narcissistic personality…responds to only one image…
‘Might be a rock’n roll addict prancing on the stage
Might have money and drugs at your commands, women in a cage
You may be a businessman or some high degree thief
They may call you Doctor or they may call you Chief.’
‘You may be a state trooper, you might be an young turk
You may be the head of some big TV Network
You may be rich or poor, you may be blind or lame
You may be living in another country under another name.’
‘You may be a preacher with your spiritual pride
You may be a city councilman taking bribes on the side
You may be working in a barbershop, you may know how to cut hair
You may be somebody’s mistress, may be somebody’s heir’
‘Might like to wear cotton, might like to wear silk
Might like to drink whiskey, might like to drink milk
You might like to eat caviar, you might like to eat bread
You may be sleeping on the floor, sleeping in a king-sized bed.’
‘You’re gonna have to serve somebody, yes indeed
You’re gonna have to serve somebody,
Well, it may be the devil or it may be the Lord
But you’re gonna have to serve somebody.’ Bob Dylan