A Balanced Life

One reality that I have learned, since I turned 60, life goes quickly.

I retired at the conclusion of 2010, nearly eight years ago, and it seems like yesterday.

I was reading my friend, Margo’s, blog and was reminded of the beauty and mystery of London.

During our trip to the United Kingdom, in 2016, we had the opportunity to visit London as well as several cities in the U.K.

In the blog entitled, A Bit About Britain, I was transported to Oxford, England, where we spent a couple of days and where I felt that I had been there before?

The history of Oxford and the spirits of the past…are compelling and it is a location that I could spend a year in…at least.

When I was working at Southern Illinois University at Carbondale, I was so thankful for the opportunities that were afforded me…that I could not spend enough time there.  I regularly worked ten and twelve hour days and weekends and holidays…and on many occasions I was there for a full twenty-four hours.

You may take note…even now…many of my writings are about or include SIUC.

But, I longed for a more balanced life.

Simply put, life is much more than working for a living.

Family is the most lovely ingredient in a balanced life.  Nothing has ever been more important to me than my wife and my two sons and their happiness and fulfillment and joy.

Faith, has always been an integral part of my life and purpose.  Faith is something to be lived…daily…not talked about incessantly.

Travel has been important to me since I was a teenager.  Former president Nixon advised parents to take their children on as many travel adventures that they could possibly afford…as there was no better education and enrichment for young people than experiencing new places and people and customs and traditions.

The Arts are vital.  Literature and reading and theatre and painting…are the expressions of life!

We are all human and endemic with that reality is the overall health of both our minds and our bodies.

Over my retirement years I have noticed the health issues that I have that are consistent with my obsession for excellence at SIU…and my constant concern as to the university’s welfare.

All of us need and require sleep.  If you are not getting enough…you are doing damage to your mental and physical faculties.  Adults require eight to ten hours per day in order to function at their maximum potential.

All of us need quiet time…as our kindergarten teacher understood…so many years ago.

All of us need love and appreciation for our efforts…we all want to know that we matter to somebody.

All of us desire to be understood and appreciated for our uniqueness.

All of us want to participate in the betterment of something that is bigger than ourselves.

It pays to step back and contemplate…and consider…from time to time.

We want to be able to have it all and do it all and be the ‘all in all’ that our family and employer and friends and organization and society…tells us that we should be.

Often…to do it all and to be everything to everyone is debilitating and mentally and emotionally exhausting…and is a prescription for disaster.

We can do it all…over the years…but not…all at once.


5 responses

    1. Thank you, my friend. 🌞

  1. Adebisi Adetunji M. | Reply

    Great words of wisdom… We can do it all but not at the same time. Thank you for sharing your journey & experience

    1. Thank you, my friend. 🌞

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