The Secret to Making Friends
Please enjoy a blog from Jonathon Brooks!
A great thing to become is a good friend. People want loyal, or good, friends. We want others to accept and love us just as we are. We want others to laugh and share joy with. If we are in a mental institution or a prison we want our friends to show up and be there for us. If we are depressed we want somebody who’ll stick by our side or offer an encouraging word. If we are drowning we need a brave soul to jump ship and save our helpless selves. People need one another; people need loyal friends.
Do we know how to be a loyal friend? Is it better to be a good friend or to have another be a good friend to us? There is truly so little I have control over in this world. I do not have the skills to make anyone be my…
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Autumn Mysteries II
Autumn Mysteries II.
‘Why do we still look like we have our masks on, said Billy B. ?”
‘I do not understand what is happening,’ replied Carl as he gathered his monster paraphernalia.’
It seems that the peel of thunder and the lightening that had landed just fifty feet from he actor…was no coincidence!
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The great creator had decided to be liberal with his creation. He decided to not dot every I and cross ever T….but rather to see what he creation desired to experience from the sublime.
Life had already been a baker’s dozen for what was available from the menu! It had been understood that there was a plethora of hijinks that were available from the human condition.
What about alternate realities? How do you square several versions of you that are going about their lives in different dimensions? How do you reconcile that the…
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Apple Laptop Shopping?
My 2013 Macbook is preparing to bite the dust…I think?
I have used it daily since 2014 and I love the convenience of it and the efficiency that it brings to my primary habit of blogging!
So, in October Mary Jane is looking for a new I Pad and I am in the market for a new laptop. What is the type of laptop that you use and why do you like it? I am looking for something that is light in weight and excellent for word processing. We will be in St. Louis for a couple of days and we literally love to go to the Apple store in the Galleria! I recently purchased a new I Phone at the Apple store in the Galleria Mall and I am so pleased with it. The time that the Apple attendants take with customers is wonderful! The ensure that you understand the device that you are interested in or have purchased and their customer service is unparalleled!
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I had been an intermittent blogger from 2012…until Mary Jane and I took a month long visit to Europe with our dear friends, Margo and Jeff. When we stayed with Margo and Jeff for a week in Nice, France…I observed what a serious author that Margo was. As she showed us her office and spoke of her writing I decided to dedicate myself to a desire that I have had since I was a youngster…writing! Since that visit…I have written virtually every day….for five years!
We had the opportunity to visit a lecture by the renowned author, Patricia Sands, and I absorbed the love and acceptance of the French authors that were present as well as Ms. Sands…who was very welcoming and pleased that we were in attendance.
Nice is a magnificent city! As we toured Nice I reflected on the many writings of Margo and I understood the history of the area…so much better and fuller!
During that month long visit we visited Venice and Florence, Italy. Words can not describe the beauty of Venice! Margo told me of the syndrome that struck some visitors to Florence when they are witness to the preponderance of art and sculptor and paintings and architecture and Renaissance beauty that is Florence! The tourists become a bit overwhelmed and dizzy with the magnificence of what the Medici family have wrought!
During this month long sojourn of 2014…we also lodged in an ancient farmhouse in Tuscany! A portion of the farmhouse was constructed in the 1200’s while the new section was from the 1700’s.
We attended a spa in Montacateni Terme, which was at the foot of the mountain that the ancient farmhouse was on. Jeff told me that we must enjoy a swim and a sauna before the massage that would be administered by experts.
The swim I enjoyed very much. The water was warm and there was a waterfall and I felt refreshed after Jeff and Margo and I had a breathing treatment from steam wafting forth from the mineral springs that fed the spa.
The sauna was an fun time with Jeff bringing me cold water to drink about every five minutes and the feeling that I had never been hotter than at that moment!
The massage experience was unlike anything that I have ever undergone in my life! Margo and Mary Jane went before us. They had taken soothing mineral baths while Jeff and I had chosen the sauna. When the ladies came out to retrieve Jeff and I…the one who was my masseuse proclaimed that she wanted the husband of Mary!
As my massager and I travelled back to the massage room I asked the physical professional…how she was doing? She responded with a glaring stare that let me know that she must have heard or interpreted my comments as something different than I had uttered.
I then commented that she must be working hard…and she noted that I was assuredly doing better than her…as I was on vacation.
When we entered the room…the masseuse instructed me to take off all of my clothes and put on paper biking pants. When I protested that my European friend and assured me that I could leave my shorts on…she insisted….bikini pants…and she illustrated what was the front…and what was the back. She noted that she would leave the room and return shortly. I hurriedly did as I was told!
When the masseuses returned she instructed me to sit in front of a full length mirror and close my eyes. I was glad to close my eyes…as I had a distinct resemblance to Buddah! She then poured oil over my head and it ran down on to my face and chest and shoulders…and she admonished me to….relax!
The patroness of the ancient Tuscany farmhouse made us breakfast one morning and dinner one evening. The food was delicious and she was mercurial! She and her son went to feed their chickens after we had retired to bed. She spoke loudly and passionately and some of us were scared…but I was intrigued!
The Tuscany Matron had little kittens that she alternately kissed and subsequently boxed their ears! We drove down the hairpin path to Montacateni Terme, the first night that we were there to attend a Village Fair. There was Italian beer and cuisine and we sat at a long table and and our host was at one end of the table and I was at the other…and he raised his beer, in a toast to me, and I did the same…and I felt that I was a member of the Village!
The Key of the Kind-Hearted
Another great Jonathon Brooks Blog!
Kindness is a key to unlocking the joy in life. I’ve never regretted offering a kind word to someone who might have needed it at the time. I have absolutely regretted a mean word spoken or an unnecessary gossip that leapt off of my tongue. If a man is mean to others then I guarantee he is also mean to himself. How sad this is! Life isn’t supposed to be gone through with hatred and mean spiritedness. The darkness in our world is real, but light conquers darkness every new day.
As a youth I could not find many people in my life who were truly kind-hearted. So I decided to grow up and become kind-hearted again like I had been as a young boy. I had and continue to have a lot of help from Christ Jesus. I aspire to live my life story on the highway of the…
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Autumn Mysteries
Billy B. and Carl encounter Frankenstein and the Creature from the Black Lagoon!
The first day of Fall this year is on Monday, September 23rd…or 10 days from today!
For Billy Bump the first day of Fall could not come quick enough. He was excited about playing the Creature from the Black Lagoon in his cousin, Gene’s, home movie. Gene was a monster aficionado and an adept researcher of all things horror. He subscribed to Forest J. Ackerman’s Monster Magazines and had collected a room full of professional monster masks. Gene could tell you anything that you wanted to know about the original Dracula movie with Bella Lugosi as it’s star, or spin behind the scenes movie yarns regarding, Boris Karloff’s Frankenstein for hours on end!
Gene knew the co-stars of the monster and horror movies going back to the 1930’s and had a ready knowledge of the production problems that the various movies had undergone and the rationale for why Dracula transformed…
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Sweet People…At Church!
As I was attempting to perform my elder of the week, (how is that for a lengthy title), duties this past Sunday and was at the church much longer than a normal day of worship…I could not help but notice the sweet people that kept greeting me and not only engaging me in conversation but for whom I felt a feeling of family!
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In today’s world it is very comforting to worship and fellowship with a group of people that not only make you welcome, but who are concerned about you and who are always glad to see you.
Bob gave me the high five and called me the world traveler!
Mary greeted me with a wonderful smile…twice!
Wendi thanked me for my service…not once or twice…but three times!
Lisa told me how she enjoyed my Facebook posts and I, again, thought what a lovely person to take the time to give me an encouraging word!
Dorothy B. asked me how I was feeling and I said pretty good…but not like I did when I was 20!
Have you ever noticed how genuine human interaction and friendly people make you feel better? Over the course of a stressful week…sometimes you can feel a bit isolated and that you are siting on the bank of the, ‘slough of despond’…. only to discover that your friends are often experiencing similar challenges?
Over 20 years ago my family was looking for a church. Now… I was in my early 40’s and had been a member of my first church for 17 years and then a member of two other churches over the next 12 years. Two wonderful colleagues, Carol and Lee, who worked with Mary Jane invited us to First Presbyterian church in Carbondale, Illinois. Mary Jane, told me later, that she was fearful that I would not enjoy the visit…but on the contrary…I thought the church absolutely mesmerizing and wonderful!
The same Sunday that we attended First Pres a wonderful couple, Evelyn and Harold, drove to Elkville, Illinois, where we lived at that time, and brought us homemade cookies! The drive was significant…for people that they had just met! I can assure you that their demonstration of love and welcome for our family…meant the world to us!
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I had been a member just a short time when Carol asked me if I would be willing to serve as a trustee. I had been involved in all manner of church work for many years, which included; elder and trustee and sexton and preacher of funerals…among other needed and sundry positions. I did not feel that I had time to be on the board but I was deeply honored that my new church family expressed a great confidence in me. However, I could not say no to such sweet people!
Over this year Mary Jane had back surgery and the lovely members of our church brought us a plethora of savory meals to aid and help us. I can not describe how I felt when I saw the love that our little church had for us!
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Ro texted us during the surgery for updates on MJ’s progress…and in a very nervous and difficult time of worry and distress…her concern brought us great comfort.
First Pres in Carbondale has a dinner group where we attend a different restaurant each month. It is always a fulfilling experience to sit and chat and break bread with other members of the congregation and get to know each other’s fun and diverse and energetic life!
Pastor Kerry has written a play…yes you read correctly…our pastor writes plays…that will be performed next month in our fellowship hall! The play is entitled , Murder by Malbec.’
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It is a unique experience to be a part of a faith group that it is accepting of all and does not force demands or expectation on anyone…but rather emphasizes acceptance and welcome and faith and hope.
A Frightening Day!
In 2001…it was on Tuesday!
As I was preparing for work I was watching the Today Show on NBC, which was my habit it those early days of the new century.
Suddenly it was reported that, apparently, a small commuter plane had flown into the World Trade Center. Smoke and fire were billowing from a gaping hole in the upper floors of the gargantuan building.
We had visited Manhattan in May and the first of June, 2000. We took a city tour that stopped at World Trade Center I. As we rode the extremely fast elevator up to one of the upper floors…I felt an unease and could not shake it for the entirety of our time ini the building.
Included in the tour were cookies from a bakery in WTC I. The workers in the bakery seemed frenetic and concerned about something. Manhattan is much faster paced than Southern Illinois…but something seemed off regarding the entire ambiance of the building and the people that we encountered?
We again boarded the elevator and were whisked to the roof. The view of the city was breathtaking! As I was taking photos of Aaron and Jonathon and Mary Jane…a young couple laughed and remarked that I was blocking their view and as I apologized they smirked and continued their revelries.
I felt the building sway. The tour guide, from the Ukraine, told us that we would…but there was nothing like feeling it for myself!
As I watched the Today show…soon there was an image of a large passenger jet plowing directly into World Trade Center II. The sight of this incredible event seemed surreal! We had just visited Manhattan…15 months before! I thought of our tour guide…and wondered if he was in the building? I wondered about the bakery and the bakers and waiters who had worked so feverishly? I considered whether or not if there were already tourist on the roof?
We had just moved into our new house in Carbondale March of 2000. My mother was living with us. The morning of 9-11-2001 I told Aaron and Jonathon and Mary Jane…that we may be at war!
The television news continued to get more dire. A jet had struck the Pentagon. The White House was being evacuated. A jet had crashed in field in Pennsylvania. All air traffic had been ordered to land at the nearest airport to them…and commercial and private flying had been ordered to cease!
We so enjoyed our spring visit to Manhattan. We had dined divinely! We saw the Broadway play of, Taller Than A Dwarf, with Matthew Broderick and Parker Posey. Sitting across from me was Leonard Nimoy….and behind us were Harvey Fierstein and Laurie Metcalf, who played Roseanne’s sister Jackie Harris, and is from Carbondale, Illinois. As we were walking back to our hotel we passed, the actor and actress, Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick, who apparently become uneasy by our noticing them and subsequently hailed a cab!
The sounds and the sights and the energy of Manhattan is addictive! Aaron spent half of the night looking out of the window of the Days Inn, that we were staying at, to watch the seemingly constant firetrucks and police crusers and limousines and ambulances that drove by our lodging!
We walked all over Time Square. We drank three or four Carmel Macchiato’s a day…there was a Starbucks on almost every corner to facilitate this endeavor.
I enjoyed Manhattan so much…I could live there! Once you become accustomed to the faster pace you learn that New Yorker’s are wonderful people!
I could not believe that all of the major television networks were within a few blocks of each other.
The night illumination…could be likened to living in another world. There is a palpable feeling that if you want to succeed at whatever your heart desires…you can do it in Manhattan!
And, so, I went to work at Southern Illinois University @ Carbondale. Most of my colleagues had a dazed look in their eyes and you could cut the tension with a knife.
My office was next to the power plant…and I ruminated whether we were undergoing a concerted nation wide attack?
I watched the towers collapse! It seemed more like an episode of the Twilight Zone!
I watched the news coverage for days…and weeks…and prayed that survivors would be found…and prayed for the rescuers…and I knew that they were willingly placing themselves in harms way!
Congress all went out to the front steps of the capital and sang the Star Spangled Banner!
Queen Elizabeth of the United Kingdom band played the Star Spangled Banner!
I obtained some pins of the World Trade Center from my dear friend, Cyndy!
President Bush promised that we would bring the perpetrators of the devastation to justice as he stood on the ruble heap of lost lives!
For a time we were not Democrats or Republicans or Independents….we were Americans!
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Skip Class and Don’t Buy the Book
A great Jonathon Brooks Blog!
Once I heard a fellow writer asked the question, “Who do you write for?” That writer replied, “Myself.” If the only person a writer is going to write for is their self then perhaps they should only write in personal journals. I believe a writer ought to write for their readers and for their self. The author needs an audience to appreciate or learn from their words. Readers need writers and vice versa. I don’t want my writings to be for myself; I want them to be for others to enjoy.
There is the saying about how some writers want to have written more than they want to sit down and write. I find this to be sad. Although I understand the saying. It can be difficult work to create something. Any artist is often prone to being their worst critic. Many with great talent compare their work to the…
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Plant and Service Operations Exemplary Work!
For my 32 years and 2 months and 3 weeks career at Southern Illinois University @ Carbondale I worked in the Building Services division of the Physical Plant. During those years I discovered that I was privileged to work alongside some of the most dedicated professionals that I had ever witnessed.
I was speaking with my friend, Peter, the other day and he mentioned the great physical improvements that had been made around campus in the past few years. One that is noteworthy is the Woody Hall renovation.
I walk campus daily. I never fail to see our dedicated Grounds staff busily at work…our campus is lovely!
For the past several days I have watched staff working on windows and using using high-lifts to reach them. Last week I saw Building Services staff washing windows.
I enjoyed visiting with my friend of over 30 years, Brad Dillard, who is the director of PSO. I told him that I did not know how he was able to hold it altogether with the numerous budget cuts that PSO had endured…including the last 20 years of my career! Brad responded that it was all attributable to his wonderful staff!
PSO staff love their University! They not only are dedicated to SIUC….but they daily perform herculean efforts to make it a success!
There is a constant at our University that is unmovable and unshakable and who can be relied upon in the darkest of times. The wonderful civil service staff is working for the recruitment and retention of our precious students…and our students know it!
Laughter!
‘A merry heart doth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.’ Proverbs 17:22 KJV
‘[Humanity] has unquestionably one effective weapon-laughter. Power, money, persuasion, supplication, persecution-these can lift a colossal humbug-push it a little, century by century, but only laughter can blow it to rags and atoms at a blast. Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand.’ Mark Twain
‘A good laugh heals a lot of hurts.’ Madeleine L’Engle
‘Always laugh when you can. It is cheap medicine.’ Lord Byron
‘And keep a sense of humor. It doesn’t mean you have to tell jokes, if you can’t think of anything else, when you get my age, take off your clothes and walk in front of a mirror. I guarantee you’ll get a laugh.’ Art Linkletter
‘As soap it to the body, so laughter is to the soul.’ A Jewish Proverb
My friend, Jeff, is a human joke machine! When we visit with him in Europe he has a phenomenal supply of funny anecdotes that keep us in stitches!
I have noticed that a person may be sad…but once their laugh mechanism is triggered…they are happy!
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Laughter is rather magical…don’t you think? I can be totally involved in serious matters, at least serious for a 62 year, and out of no where…something strikes me funny! Immediately I am consumed with the joy of the moment and often find it difficult to re-focus my mind and spirit in a more serious vein!
Often when women are asked why they were attracted to either their boyfriend or husband…they will respond that he makes them laugh!
I am a Jerry Seinfeld fanatic! I have watched every episode in the long running series on numerous occasions. Seinfeld is a master of timing and witty observations regrading mundane life occurrences.
It has been said that even a fake laugh has health efficacy? Also that compelling yourself to laugh will brighten you mood.
I have noticed my friend, Ro, when she is presenting Stewardship issues to our church, has a light hearted delivery that makes the physical needs medicine…easier to swallow!
I always loved the circus! However, I am like Kramer of Seinfeld in that he was afraid of clowns…and I do not like them much either! Tomorrow Aaron and I are going to see the latest Stephen King movie, IT Two, about a demon clown!
We have been raised to be serious and responsible adults. When we were children…we understood that everything was not as grim and serious as the big people made things out to be!
The world is full of mystery and wonder and joy and discovery! Life is a glorious gift that is bestowed upon us without an instruction manual or a roadmap. So many things that we encounter on our walk back to Jerusalem..are laughable and delightful…and if we are the only person in the crowded movie theatre that laughs uproariously as the funny line of act on the screen…then we ‘got it’ while the silent masses once again failed to get their money’s worth!
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The Happy Traveler 